July 22, 2013
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Visiting my sick father
I went to visit my father on Sunday. He is weakening rapidly. The flame of vitality seems to be burning at a slower pace and he is in the toughest time period of his whole life. All I could do was to try and maintain a positive and harmonious disposition while visiting. The positive was that we were all together again me with my two sisters and my parents. There must be some truth to the saying that blood is thicker than water. Family remains family irrespective of what is happening or how far one is from your family. My mother is probably suffering the most at present as she is the one that is jumping at my father’s every request. I have great respect for her tenacity in being there for my father. My father is by his full mental capability but has difficulty speaking and often has to repeat himself before he is correctly understood. He can not swallow food and it is pumped directly into his stomach through a pipe. I have seldom seen my father being sick so it is strange to see him timid and dependent on others to help him. He is still the same proud man, yet accepts his weakening state with grace. There were times when he showed signs of frustration but given the situation, he is doing the best he can.
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many times being positive and harmonious is the best thing to do…hugs and prayers for you all.
Hi Jurgens,I’m sure your father was happy to see his children around him, and I’m sure you’ve made everything to make him happy. God bless you and your family.Isabel
Hope you don’t mind me adding my prayers for your Father. It’s a hard thing to see your parent weak–just let him know you love him (which I’m sure you do) God Bless your family
It’s good that your family is all able to be together. In a time of great stress like this, it’s important or you all to be as accommodating and thoughtful of each other as possible. Often families tend to argue and assign blame – sometimes for long forgotten harms – watch for this and be a calming factor. At my age, having buried all my family and many of my peers, I speak from considerable experience
I will continue to pray for your Dad. And I will, also, pray for your Mom and for you and all your family. I’ve been the person beside the bed with both my mom and my dad. It is tough to watch their health and minds fail. HUGS!!!
So sorry to hear about your dad.
Praying for your father.
My heart goes out to all of you. I’ve walked in your shoes with both my parents and several other loved ones and it’s so hard. God bless all of you.
@mlbncsga - Harmony brings a sense of peace to a place whereby all benefit both the sick and the healthy. Thank you for commenting.@WhataWonderfulNewWorld - Since I live about 1500 km away from my parent visiting with both my sisters is a rare occasion. I agree that it must help to see one’s children again under the same roof.@Maggietx1 - Thank you for your prayers. Yes, all we can do is to continue to show our love. @tychecat - Thank you for your advice. Fortunately everybody is doing their part and the visit was positive in the sense of our family relationships.
@adamswomanback - Thank you, I will never underestimate the value of prayer.@LadyofWaters - Thank you for your support.@Shining_Garnet - I appreciate your prayers@GrannyHummingbird - I value the fact that you can emphasize with my situation.
Just sitting here for a bit…praying for your Dad. Praying for you and your family.HUGS!!!
Such a difficult thing to experience. I’m glad the family was able to come together.Bringing that love into the space is so important. Wishing you peace