March 8, 2012
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Another Xangan disappear
Another Xangan disappear
Reminicence
How sad when a #Xangan disappear? Without saying good bye...a site is just closed. Given the time spend commenting and being commented upon...it is almost cruel. Just without trace and without word. That people I know must go is not strange or wrong. All arrive and all must go but without saying: "Cheers" that feels so wrong. When Xangan's leave and close their sites without a word it is always sad. Was the comments they left just an empty illusion of friendship or something real.
I never try to keep people on #Xanga...those that left a message and say "I am sorry but I must go", I greeted with a smile and the hope that one day we will met again on some forum... But I truly feel annoyed with friends who commented and shared ideas for a long period of time just disappear overnight without word. So here is my plea to all Xangan's and even more to those who consider themselves to be my Xanga friends. You are valued so please, please, please if you have to go send a last message just to say good bye. Your writing and comments will still be missed but at least there was a point of closure.
Just dropping of the world without word is almost like suicide...leaving others just to wonder what happened to that soul that spoke into your world. When you leave your comments on my site ...it is never taken light. Your words are little treasures that continue long after they have left...through the impact they had on me. I can list those who truly made Xanga memorable for me and those who had an impact on me. Yes each count in there own special way. Xanga is a special place for me where I share my deepest thought, my inner mind, the strive in my emotions and all those things that go by. When you read and comment it does make a difference and it makes at least one guy smile. You must never under estimate that value of your words as they depart from you to enrich another.
I can not make you stay but I implore once more...please, please, please...just sent a short message and say good bye.
Comments (19)
Yup xangacides are hurtful ...I create bounds to many xangans and it's painful when you find out they've gone D:
I've been online for a long time.
I've been on Xanga more than a decade.
I'm sorry for your loss...but I SERIOUSLY hate the "message" when someone decides to split.
It reeks of "Talk me out of it." Or worse..."Tell me I'm PRETTY!"
Nope...I have greater respect to those who just stop...or even those who come back when it suits them.
But the big vanish...or the "I'm leaving and NEVER coming back!"...
Not my style.
I hope you hear from your friend. Maybe someone here knows why they left. I know you always write such personal stuff about your life, and you are always kind in engaging in conversations with the people who leave comments here. It's sad when someone we enjoy reading is no longer here.
Sometimes staying is harder than leaving...
Consider the disappearance a compliment.
Great post. I've had many people on Xanga who I enjoyed reading and suddenly they were gone. I stil think about them and wonder how they are doing.
I recently had to shut down my main, personal account due to technical difficulty with Xanga. It wouldn't let me post anymore, or even send a message, and all my requests to the Xanga team for help regarding the matter went unanswered. It was hard to do, as I had it for many years, but there was nothing I could do but let it go. I hope you find out what happened to your friend. Maybe they had the same type of problem, and it wasn't personal. I hope they contact you.
It is always a shock when someone does that. It sticks with a person sometimes.
I know exactly what you mean. I do make the disappearing act but rest assured that I'd be sticking around for the next thousand years. lol
Hope you are doing great!
@xXxlovelylollipop - indeed, it seems that all the sharing was meaningless.
@galadrial - the day I close down, I will send out a message and close down. I like you approach
@songoftheheart - You are one of the people I value dearly here on Xanga...lol...if you dissapear, I will haunt you
@AgainstTheWind1 - Thank you for giving me a new perspective.
@Shining_Garnet - So true the thoughts left behind makes us always wonder what happened...lol, with you I will be wondering what on earth you are reading.
@WednesdaysShadow - Your experience must have been devastating. I am glad you found a new page to continue your Xanga experiences.
@Zeal4living - You're so kind to say that. I don't want any hauntings! LOL! I'll stick around!
Hey my buddy. How are you ? Seems my "Eyes Of A Painter" page was hacked. My password was stolen and causing my page to disappear. I have an idea who it was and have reported it to Xanga. Hopefully it will not happen again. Hope things are good with you, my brother.
Whatup Zeal? Longtime no c.
I enjoyed this post of yours and re-offer my hand in friendship to you. Yes, This is TheBOOOOYA! Speaking. You may have forgotten me my friend, but I have not forgotten you. When the POC went underground, we devised a secret location to meet and ever since then we've continued on. As always, I am continually up to trouble, I enjoy the high-arts, philosophy, fried chicken.
You can find me at this SECRET LOCATION.
-BOOOOYA!
and if for whatever reason stupid xanga makes my link not work. Here is the address:
http://www.facebook.com/goose.chaparro
such disappearances are tragic and traumatic...yet life is like that. It is there...and it is gone.
wow yes!! great post Zeal! I agree with you 1000%
..i will definitely make sure to let my friends know before i go.
I've been a Xangan since early millennia and I've experienced your sentiments. Close xangan friends dropping out without as much as a "see you later".. and it hurts. i've missed them and often wonder how they're doing...
I really enjoy the way you describe the xanga friendship and what it means to you. Thank you. Its nice to know others feel the same way. Just because we arent friends in person doesnt mean we arent friends.
Xanga is a very special place to me as well, and even tho i'd love to post much more often than I do, I still make sure to come back and read my friends' thoughts, drop a line to say hi, and then be on my way. Much of what happens in my day to day life i find myself thinking "wow, i should share this in xanga" .... and if i was ever to not come back to Xanga -which i dont see it happening
Thanks buddy!
@catstemplar2 - I am fine, thank you. Yes, I wondered what happened to you. Glad you are back.
@BOOOOYA - I will follow your link, thank you...and yes I remember you.
@ascultafili - Thank you for visiting and commenting
@wiccanadri - Aaah, you are also one of those people that had been a Xanga friend for a long time and I am glad we share a connection. We often share views on other topics as well.
"Just dropping of the world without word is almost like suicide...leaving others just to wonder what happened to that soul that spoke into your world."
Dear Jurgens,
Apt that I should see this particular post right now, and also apt that I shall recommend it, and supply a long-in-coming comment/letter to you, my friend.
I vowed never to commit Xangacide, with or without a "xangacide note post" because of all the reasons you state so lucidly here. Sure, we Xangans are disparately located, (you're what, about 6000 miles from me, I'm guessing) (and not about to look it up, although that's easy enough this being the internet.) And we sometimes count our "friends" and "subscribers" in the hundreds. We're really just a mass of humanity sitting behind our computer screens (or texting to our phones, or posting from our tablets on the go) and it's really easy to turn the damn thing off every now and then. I do it all the time. Eight years in the Xangasphere. Over a decade online. I've stated my reasons for being a sporadic poster, and even more sporadic commenter over and over again in comments and on my blog.
The blog is me, though.. And as long as I'm still able to read the obituaries instead of appearing in them, I've got my online universe in cyberspace, and it's another "place" where I hang one of my myriad hats. (I haven't been internetting for so long that vocabulary is flying out of my mind through my fingers right now. Forgive me for any words I type you might have to look up! I know English isn't your primary language, and I don't speak or write Afrikaans)
I've found that during my hiatuses, when I come back, the front page of Xanga might look a little different. (Same tired subjects and quarrels, different usernames, and in some cases, the same Xangans who have adopted different usernames.) But those friends who don't care about "the front page" are still using Xanga, still socializing on Xanga, and still waxing philosophic/talking about their lives/posting photos etc. and have the same coterie of aquaintences they always have. Except, of course for those who have "moved away" from the service, or "committed Xangacide."
I had over 60 "messages" in my Xanga inbox. I haven't read many of them. (I don't recognize the usernames of lots of people who show up in my "universal inbox.") But I did note that a couple of longtime friends here did send messages to their "subscribers and friends" alerting them of any website/social networking changes.
The absence of a few more friends leaves some gaping holes in my soul.
So I may be off and on. But I'm one who knows how to social network on the internet. I've been doing it for over a sixth of my lifetime now. The same rules apply as in any social situation. I'll always let people know where I can be reached. During this latest (and I believe the longest) of my hiatuses away from blogging, I have been keeping in touch with some internet friends through my gmail account and on Facebook. I'm attempting to expand my internet presence again. And I haven't really felt creative in almost a year, so the juices are about to flow with force and ease, I'm surmising.
Great to see you're still "here" on Xanga, Jurgens. You and I connected very early in my association with Xanga. I turn 59 this May, and by the time I turn 60 in 2013, I should have the bulk of my debt paid off, and will begin saving for my long awaited next five year plan, which is to travel. South Africa is one of the countries on the African continent I want to visit, and I'm sure I will be looking for a "Xanga Meetup" with you if you're willing, when and if that happens. My plans have been working out, so I'm pretty positive that I'll be traveling the world right before and after my retirement from my 2nd career, which should be in about 7 years.
Oh, and I if drop out of actively posting on Xanga, I'll be sure and let you (and everyone else around here) know. No Xangacide for the Mikester!
Michael F. Nyiri , poet, philosopher, fool
Who left?