January 1, 2012
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2012 – Life Values
#2012 – #Life Values
Personal reflection
This year the emphasis of life values will be to grow further in my role as #father. My children are growing up quickly and my role as father is changing. Where being a father was one of expressing authority it is changing to of being a mentor. The time has come to move away from being an authority figure to one of a guide and mentor. This is a difficult transition to make because it is also a time in which I will have to give my children more freedom to engage by themselves with the world. I have to identify moments where my children where they show a sense of responsibility so that I can reward and compliment that behavior. Freedom after all is earned by showing responsibility. My children still has a lot to learn before they are fully prepared to face all the challenges of the world. My role as father now is to help them discover their own personality and their own identity. I will have to invest time in what we have in common so that their is enough common ground for a foundation of love to strengthen and for communication to prosper.
This year my focus will be on #parenting. I want to show my children all that is beautiful. The ground work is in place for all my children has an appreciation for art, music and philosophy. This year I will be cautious against expressing negative emotion and focus on the positive, the hope and the possibilities that is there for them. I will endeavor to encourage my children to look in life for more than what can be experienced just by the five senses. True beauty is more than what we sense for it is also how we project our inner mind onto those senses.
The means of connecting might require from me to act as the fool. At times asking them for advice and listening to them with more interest. Rather than telling them what to do, I will have ask them what they think should be done. I will have to take the focus away from just performance and achievement and introduce them to a thinking that will increase the quality of their being. Maybe it is time to go out and look at the stars with them. Arrogance coming from being more mature will not cut into the young rebellious mind. But sincerity that touch their core reality and self perception will ignite the fire of inner growth and certainty. They need to learn that we do not need certainty but that we need courage to face our challenges…that is the virtue I would like to encourage within them.
My vision for 2012: I am a sought-after mentor for my children
My mission: To empower my children with an appreciation for beauty as well as for taking responsibility.
My objectives:
- To empower my children with responsibility, so that they gain more freedom to act independently in the world.
- To facilitate decision making through questions rather than by directing my children’s decisions.
Other entries for 2012:
2012 – Personality and ego
Comments (4)
I have the utmost confidence that you will continue to be a better person on all fronts as time goes on. Just wanted to pop in and wish you a happy, healthy and prosperous 2012.
Onward and upward
The parent experience has expanded into territory that we are pioneering, my friend. The honesty and reflection that we guide our children with will shine as they come into their own. The best to you every day! Just keeping loving them, sharing and being the man you reach for with each new day. (pats heart and points to you)
@oceanstarr - Thank you for stopping by and for your new Year wishes…it is much appreciated.
@Jaynebug - Your encouragement means so much to me. Thank you.
I have no doubt that your vision of a father figure for your children is and will be a great one. I say that because of your nobilty of heart, and the power you have of you to share in your love.
Your kids are fortunate to have a dad like you.